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One of the first, if not the very first, lesson I had to learn in my healing journey was about compassion. I'd thought I understood what compassion meant–what it looked and felt like–until someone challenged me and my long held beliefs. I went on to learn more about compassion than I'd thought possible and to be challenged by it from different points of view. What I learned changed my life. Now I understand compassion as the foundation to healing work. And self-compassion is the precursor to living life with more freedom, to thriving in my relationship with myself and with others. Having more compassion for myself, however, is not a "one and done," not an item I can put on and then check off my To-do List. I want and need to continue my learning. Would you like to join me?
What you could win: Free tuition to the 4 week self-compassion class to be taught byBrené Brown and Kristin Neff on Brené's CourageWorks website. The course opens May 16, 2016 and all four lessons will be available at once and can be completed at your own pace.
To ENTER: It's easy. Leave a message here (below in the comment section), or send me a PM (on Facebook or via email) of at least a few sentences but no more than 500 words: Why do you want or need to learn more about self-compassion? How do you think the knowledge will help you?
Entries must be received by Friday, May 13, 2016 5:00pm PT. I will choose one winner from the entries submitted. The winner is at my sole discretion based on entries received. I will contact the winner directly by Sunday, May 15. The "cost" of winning is to participate in 1 or 2 brief posts here, written together with me, about what we're learning and how it helps.
Here is the class description from the Courage Works website: (or click here)
SELF-COMPASSION WITH KRISTIN NEFF & BRENÉ BROWN
Why are we so often our own harshest, coldest, and cruelest critic? Self-compassion, learning to calm our inner critic, is central to living a brave life as a partner, friend, parent, and leader. The Self-Compassion workshop combines the skills of mindfulness and self-compassion to enhance our capacity for emotional wellbeing. This four-lesson online workshop, co-facilitated by Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Brené Brown, provides valuable tools that can help you integrate self-compassion into your daily life. Together, we will walk through exercises that teach us to be compassionate and kind not only to others in their times of struggle, but also to ourselves.
Specific goals of the workshop include:
• Understanding why we habitually criticize ourselves rather than support ourselves
• Understanding the impact of our self-critical voice and how to acknowledge it then learn from it
• Understanding how your misgivings about self-compassion may prevent you from practicing it
• Learning and practicing three strategies to work with difficult emotions
The course opens May 16, 2016 and all four lessons will be available at once and can be completed at your own pace.
There are no prerequisites for this workshop. If you've already taken the Living Brave Semester and are interested in learning more about self-compassion, this is a great way to develop a self-compassion practice in a more focused way.
Recommended readings may be purchased separately. They are not required.
• Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
• The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher Germer
Course is co-facilitated by Kristin Neff & Brené Brown
I would love to learn more about self-compassion. My dear husband, Richard, died two and a half months ago from cancer. We were married for 29 years, together for 31. I believe I am being good to myself at this point, putting “taking care of my emotional health” at the top of my “to-do” list every day. I have never lived so much “in the moment” than I have during these last two and a half months, as I can only deal with the present, by the minute, hour or day. I can’t think ahead of that, outside of planning time with friends, family and my therapist, in order to nourish my soul.
While I don’t want or need to think about my "tomorrows" during my “todays”, I have so much more responsibility than I ever thought I’d have. So many decisions to make alone… So much time to spend alone. I feel confident that I will be okay in the long run, even though it will be a struggle to get there (and stay there). I do not believe time will heal this wound. I do believe time will soothe my pain to some degree. Probably to a large degree. But I just lost my biggest cheerleader, someone who stood by me all the time, even when I didn’t believe in myself.
I’ve always been my biggest, cruelest critic.
I am being gentle with myself now because I know of no other choice that would make me want to get out of bed every morning. I am grateful for all the love and compassion Richard had for me. He helped to sustain my emotional well-being. How will I be a month from now without him by my side? A year from now? Ten years?
I know that rabbit-hole of self-destruction is out there, ready to accept me into its recesses as soon as I begin to weaken, as soon as I forget to take good care of my emotional health. This online class could help me to stay strong in the self-compassion department. And knowing who Brene is, I trust her to provide tools and insight to help me make every day richer than I could make it on my own.
While I would love to win this contest, I do not want to take the place of someone in more need of the course. Losing a spouse is huge by everyone’s standards, but seemingly smaller triggers can be devastating events in anyone’s ability to be self-compassionate. I am managing fairly well, all things considered, so keep that in mind, dear Tracey!
What a beautiful opportunity you've put out there for your readers. I won't be entering your contest, but I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you and all you do.
I, also, wanted to let Sue Schwartz that her entry (above) is wonderful. I'm so sorry for her great loss. Yet, I'm so grateful to see her taking care of herself during this tough time. Sue, if you read this, please don't stop being self-compassionate. You will help many others by example. Bless you! Rhonda Hayes Curtis
Thank you so much Rhonda for reading, leaving a comment, and supporting my dear friend. She definitely is one of the strongest people I know. So are you.
Thank you, Rhonda. So much.
I watched the youtube video of your interview with Tracey. I want to read your book… someday… for now I feel it would be too soon for my heart to take. You are a role model to me. You are so gracious and one day I truly believe your book will help me continue to move forward. <3