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My Middle Shelf

The Gifts of Imperfection

I took this selfie in 2014 as I was about to embark on an e-course with Brené Brown based on her book, “The Gifts of Imperfection.” It was one of our first assignments. Contrary to my glowing smile, at the time, I felt worse about my imperfections than ever before. My teenage daughter was in treatment for an eating disorder and depression. I felt alone and scared and hopeless. I also felt responsible. I tried everything I could think of and everything the professionals recommended to help her get better. Through that process, I learned the hard way that I have control over nothing but myself. I realized that if I wanted her to feel better about herself, I had to show her how by truly and deeply feeling better about myself. Today my daughter thrives and I have a daily practice that reminds me I’m not alone and there is hope. There is so much hope. I want to share my journey with you, lessons I learned then that still help me now. Most of all, I want to build and share this community because we’re all in this together. I’m imperfect and I’m enough and so are you. You are not alone.

3 Comments

  1. You are very brave to share your story. Not just in putting out your struggles on the Web, but also to talk about/write about/deal with such hard times. You could have simply tried to move on and not dwell so much on the past, with its heart-wrenching details. I understand that what you are doing is healing for you. And for the rest of us! Thank you for what you are doing. Through your instigation, I will heal and grow by reading your stories, opinions and insight, as well as being part of these conversations. : )

  2. I'm reading this book right now and finding it very inspirational. I'm searching for a way to help my daughter deal with her self esteem issues. I really was at a loss until I started reading this book and saw my daughter on every page. The first step to healing is diagnosing the problem…so here we go.

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